Dear Reader, thank you for being here. God bless you as you read.
As Christians, we know that as long as you’re not married, you’re single, whether you’re dating, talking to someone, or in a relationship. But what I want to focus on today is true singleness. No dating, no relationship, just you. This season, which I call the singlehood era, is such a key period in life, and I say this from experience.
When you’re in this season, it’s often because God is preparing you for marriage, but beyond that, He’s preparing you for you. It’s a time of learning and unlearning, of stripping away old habits, thoughts, and ways of life that don’t align with God. You’re learning how to be a better person, a better believer, a better child of God. You’re learning more about Him, how to know Him deeply, how to read His Word beyond just morning devotions, how to talk to Him like a friend, how to go on dates with Him, how to try new hobbies, and how to live fully in this season.
It’s an amazing season because you realize that so many things you thought you knew, you actually don’t. And as children of God, our way of thinking, our morals, and our actions are all different from the world’s. In this era, your whole lifestyle starts to change. Your diet shifts, not just in terms of food, but in the people you interact with, the music you listen to, the things you watch, the words you speak, and the thoughts you entertain. Every aspect of your life begins to align with God’s will. It’s a season of reforming, transforming, and renewing.
And here’s the thing. You have to key into it. The sooner you recognize that this is a season of preparation, the better. Because while it’s a beautiful time, it also comes with challenges. Bouts of loneliness, self-doubt, and overthinking. But when you stay rooted in God, He walks with you through it all. His Word says He will never give us more than we can handle, and everything He allows us to experience is meant for our good.
This season isn’t just about you and God. It’s also about what’s to come. It’s a prequel to marriage, to the future He’s preparing you for. And just like you have expectations for your future spouse, qualities you want them to have, you should also be developing those same qualities within yourself. If you desire a patient and loving home, you should start embodying patience and love now. If you want a spouse who is kind, prayerful, disciplined, or hardworking, you should be cultivating those traits too. The same way you’re praying for a godly husband or wife, someone out there is praying for a godly spouse too. Why wouldn’t you want to be an answer to their prayers?
You also shouldn’t wait until marriage to start praying for your spouse and family. Start now. Pray for your future husband, your future children, your home, your career, everything. Because as God is building you in this season, He’s also laying the foundation for what’s ahead.
So if you’re in your singlehood era, embrace it. It’s not a waiting room. It’s a preparation ground. A time to grow, to transform, to become the person God has called you to be. And when the next season comes, you’ll step into it ready.
Peace.
DAILY TIDBITS
The past few days have been a little tough. I’ve had bouts of loneliness, and I’ve had to force myself to shake it off and cheer up. Of course, I’ve been praying about it, but one thing I’ve realized is how important it is to stay busy. Busy enough that the devil doesn’t even get the chance to sneak negative thoughts into your mind.
Finding hobbies, doing things you actually enjoy, and sticking to them is so important. It keeps your mind and body active, stops you from feeling stagnant, and honestly just makes life more fulfilling. So I’m making it a priority to explore more hobbies, things that will keep me engaged in a good way.
On a brighter note, my birthday is this week. This Thursday, actually. I’m so excited to turn a year older. God has been so gracious, and I can’t wait to celebrate. I’ll let you guys know how it all goes.
TIPS & REFLECTIONS
Like I mentioned in the main post, keep yourself busy—the right kind of busy. Don’t overwork yourself, but find joy in different things, especially new things. Try out hobbies that aren’t just what you’re used to. Of course, you can stick to what you enjoy, but also take time to explore. Get to know yourself better. Do things you’ve always wanted to try.
It doesn’t have to be anything expensive or extravagant. Sometimes, it’s the little things that bring the most joy. Simple moments, new experiences, and even everyday routines can feel special when you approach them with the right mindset.
And above all, always stay connected to God. Cultivate your relationship with Him, not just daily, but constantly. Pray to Him, talk to Him, and lean on Him in every moment. When you do, He will grant you the desires of your heart.
WORDS OF HOPE
Psalm 37:4 – “Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.”
Proverbs 3:5-6 – “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.”
Ecclesiastes 3:1 – “There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens.”